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This is why it is called ¨mirroring¨. Ex. Interested, guiding parents that discover the beautiful wisdom in the child and support a healthy separation, create a healthy emotional landscape within the child. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1588669437752-BRHIV10XXEBD3FCTLU52/image-asset.jpeg Separation vs Abandonment - Healthy The word ”healthy” is synonymous with ”real” and has an important reality function. The notion of the real self is the concept of the true self: It is the position in which comes the spontaneous gesture and personal idea. Only the true nature can be creative, act with true self care, and feel” real”. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1667923175908-XMUFJPRPU02M61ZKTGQ3/unsplash-image--DWXGpyy5as.jpg Separation vs Abandonment - Mirroring flaws If the caregivers themselves suffer from unhealed mirroring flaws, they will project their internal dilemmas onto the child when intimacy is required. The child will receive reactions that are not based on the child´s true nature, but the internal dilemmas of the caregiver. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1586076073722-XUH18PE5MAY22S3FKTCW/image-asset.jpeg Separation vs Abandonment - Disorder of the self Mirroring flaws creates experiences of being abandoned, excluded, neglected, severely misunderstood, criticized and not recognized for what, and who you are. This forms a deep loneliness and anxiety. These core dilemmas are named: separation anxiety and abandonment depression https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1667465630708-OR6ZG7D8S2LBTDXR6ETZ/unsplash-image-do0KG7sLttM.jpg Separation vs Abandonment - Emotional memory loss The Child cannot reason and understand that the caregivers are with flaws and creating these feelings in them. They will perceive it as themselves being ugly, invisible, inadequate, a plague, responsible for others’ emotions and responsible for `loosing` the caregivers,- and these unbearable feelings of anxiety and pain from not being lovable are locked down in a box or under a blanket of emotional memory loss. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1667465527206-3BNITXGHATBCU3YFSP23/unsplash-image-kk3UKBAydXc.jpg Separation vs Abandonment - Defense Mechanisms occur when it is needed to keep emotions under a blanket. A great deal of defenses is needed, as the emotions of extreme vulnerability will surface with connection and interaction as an adult. The defense mechanisms is named ´modern personality disorders´ and function for one solemn reason; to prevent the abandonment depression and the separation anxiety from the first years to surface. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1667465426384-G5QRHX94MIMUQ6YOI96B/unsplash-image-8DhHk4su7kA.jpg Separation vs Abandonment - Personality Disorders expresses themselves in adolescents or adults in character traits like: demanding admiration or needing to be the center of attention at all times and harsh and attacking reactions when not received, or, on the other hand, full occupation with the `other`, over-pleasing to achieve ´love´, and at stressed times, severe clingy behavior, or lastly isolation and distancing to feel safe. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1586076150120-LJIKUXGA2NHEH8W6TS0W/image-asset.jpeg Separation vs Abandonment - Abandonment Depression expressed by Mrs. D, (with schizoid disorder) when core emotions reached her consciousness: “it´s like being in a place or in a home where I am forever left to eternal loneliness, anxiety and having no worth, without any exit” Mrs. D https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1610061398428-N74B679X2357CCEKMV42/image-asset.jpeg Separation vs Abandonment - Suicidal Urges Is a message that there is something in Your life that can not be tolerated any longer. And is the body`s way of saying stop! This is a place to grow new hope and start new beginnings. Unfortunately the conventional health system do not offer insight or the right help and many (also young) people choose to act on this urge. Do not do that! This is a good place for change if you learn to listen to your emotions and understand what the traumatic emotions tell you to not, - by any circumstances, tolerate any longer!11 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1609873056313-4EU9ZOTVWYDT51P3JMF9/image-asset.jpeg Separation vs Abandonment - Extreme Deviant Behavior The extreme deviant behavior, such as psychopathy, is not that common. We are now entering the intra structure of humans that have suffered unbearable horror and abuse. When a person has reached a psychological point of fracture (ref; resilience frame), the emotions from the original horror are completely cut off from all emotional memory. The blanket is not there anymore, and vulnerabilities do not surface. The defense mechanisms are extreme and conscious. Full identification with the abuser remains. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1667470956443-VJHYWFCVW28JFWAT16JI/unsplash-image-DpQFFnyzuwo.jpg Separation vs Abandonment - Chemical Induced Psychopathy The psychopathy core distortion has to be differentiated from chemical and drug created psychopathy (an accepted and quite normal form of behavior in the white-collar culture for quite a while and more and more common as a ´recreational state`, among the younger generation), - a condition that will disappear, when the drug is removed. (Though replaced by possible psychosis during detox). https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1578826189727-RDEE7YTWWPAXJKIBKKEF/bl%C3%A5+baggrund.JPG Separation vs Abandonment - Resilience is the ability to regenerate and the resistance against dysfunction. Cathrin Hoff resilience is a differnet way of perceiving `health`. With the reality function, `healthy´ or ´true development` as a concept of acts investing in humans and nature. It is the position in which true acts of knowledge development and creativity launches behavior benefical to humans and planetary health. https://intra.help/art-of-empathy daily 0.75 2025-09-08 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1586078985537-3RGWEPZ7EOIU1HRHL62C/image-asset.jpeg The Art of Emathy - “Empathy is not a feeling — it is a skill.” https://intra.help/the-art-of-creativity daily 0.75 2025-09-08 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/6051c8fa-67d2-429c-ad5b-640916612401/Cover+photo.png Creativity “Creativity flows when the real self is free.” https://intra.help/mirroring-flaws daily 0.75 2025-09-09 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1588669437752-BRHIV10XXEBD3FCTLU52/image-asset.jpeg Mirroring Flaws - Were you guided with patience, fun and interest, soft voices and safe touches — or criticized, disciplined, and rejected for not being good enough? The first creates resilience, the latter creates mirroring flaws and a non-resilient psyche. https://intra.help/team-work-and-innovation daily 0.75 2023-01-11 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1662730995841-7V0CKJ1A4NVXBD92IAX9/unsplash-image-nF8xhLMmg0c.jpg Team Work and Innovation - Creativity and Authenticity I n Team Work, some of the same methods are proven very useful to team optimization, but as this approach is not dealing with mirroring flaws and therapy, it does not enter a profound therapeutic process, but gives techniques to create collective social powerful memories where empathic and supportive interconnection between the members of the team is achieved through practical exercises. It is the team leader´s responsibility to facilitate a safe zone where mental models can be revealed, and the team can learn to trust, respect and support each other. If defensive mental models are at stake,- expectations, limitations, and competencies within the team, will remain hidden from articulation, or be articulated in attacking, defending or manipulative ways, and innovation will be a vague vision and not fulfilled. It is the Team leader´s responsibility to couch the individuals to facilitate a way for the member to accomplish his/her best, as well as confront, mirror or interpret the team as a whole, - define the different roles each member have, and guide the team as an unity, or entity, on its own, that act on real goals and dreams and resist defense mechanisms. Only when defenses are contained and the need to use them, are resisted, true team-creativity will occur and innovation is enabled. The Team Leader´s job is a therapist ``light`` version. BOOK HERE https://intra.help/intra-relational-therapy daily 0.75 2023-01-11 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1588669437752-BRHIV10XXEBD3FCTLU52/image-asset.jpeg Intra relational therapy - Intra Relational therapy In Personal therapy it is the therapist´s responsibility to manage these energetic stages, based on the mental models and the defenses of the patient and the therapist´s profound knowledge of his/her own mental models and defenses. The whole therapeutic vision and goal is to aid the client to regenerate from severely terrifying emotional experiences and the defense created against revelation of these unbearable emotions, that are now repetitively externalized. If the therapist fails to keep the neutral and objective stance, (even though he/she has a genuine interest to help), because of a transference, - the therapy will suffer a halt. Maybe the patient will not come back, or at worst, it can re-traumatize the client. To become aware of, and reveal and articulate the mental models, is in itself the therapeutic process of emotional memory and ability to self-caring behavior. BOOK HERE https://intra.help/inter-relational-therapy daily 0.75 2022-11-08 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1662730812373-KNTI4U18GE9IZ7TUGR26/unsplash-image-yH18lOSaZVQ.jpg Inter relational therapy - Inter Relational therapy Group Therapy is an event where the therapist´s responsibility is to aid the group to recognize how the members different issues are externalized and how the group, as a whole, convert into an entity that absorb the individual´s disorders or beneficial expression. The inter-relation is treated as a sum of the group, not the individuals. This therapy is in its core very different from personal therapy, but very effective, with the correct therapeutic techniques applied to the group. It does not work as an substitute to personal therapy. The optimal setting is to follow both a personal therapy course, as well as the group therapy, in tandem (with another therapist). The personal therapy help you understand your relationship to yourself and how it is expressed, and the group therapy help you see how it affects your way of relating, both authentic and defensive.. When externalization of traumas are at stake, the group live out the disorders, and the inter-relational dilemmas are open for exploration. This way is not an substitute to personal therapy, as they are 2 completely different approaches, dealing with 2 different areas of problems that both stem from mirroring flaws. The optimal team therapy is combined with personal therapy in an parallel slope. BOOK HERE https://intra.help/extreme-deviant-behavior-and-profiling daily 0.75 2022-11-08 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1662731038325-X034R4QYPCCW9HHOKQ68/unsplash-image-DzjpSlSXjoQ.jpg Extreme Deviant behavior and Profiling - Profiling of Extreme Deviant Behavior is aimed primarily to law force and institutions with interest in profiling their paternal defenses. Extreme deviant behavior does not differ from other personality disorders in the sequences and repetition of the dysfunction, but the destructiveness is of a completely different character and impact. The defense mechanism has grown out of proportion or rather, the horrifying mirroring has made the psyche completely discharge all emotional memory and turn to horror acts, to cope, - a mental extreme defense mechanism with extreme distortive acts as a result. We are now moving into the fracture zone of the resilience area. We are no longer talking about personality disturbances, but a completely fractured psyche. We are in such cases talking about a very small percentage of humans, and always extremely damaged people and often also very dangerous people because the acts are not unconscious acts. The history and background always show a storyline where the mirroring flaw is of extreme abuse and has created emotions of extreme horror and pain, and no relieve anywhere. These emotions are defended through by an externalization of the horror. https://intra.help/therapeutic-visions daily 0.75 2025-04-08 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1586082818633-SZ5TJ95QMLF4ZMUITYM0/image-asset.jpeg Therapeutic Visions - The Real Self merges if the false self (the split self model) is not acted out, that means, the defense unit is dormant, and the impaired self Unit has surfaced. The pain of the impairment then surfaces and the affect of the wounds must be worked through. Work through shows itself with emotional expressions like crying, anger, poisonous shame, again crying. The real Self is active and the wounds are defined and worked through; It is crucial to recovery that the emotions that arise, is worked through (emotional memory and articulation and emotional affect), not cut off!!. The real self act from a fundament of self organization, where the different “I” in different circumstances are well known and guided and supported with worth and freedom of choice. The real self expresses the creative mind and ideas independently of others and acts according to his or her authenticity and in reality. Under the imprisoning circumstances of mirroring flaws, the real self has to be activated, as a decision, on a daily basis, in the start of the recovery. This is a process where grief of huge losses and great pain happens, and requires patience, self soothing and self support, and preferably someone that aids with empathic mirroring to demystify anxieties that surface. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1663582628990-QGUX0R2WGHT3BGQL40F3/unsplash-image-c-TB_qEuWBQ.jpg Therapeutic Visions - Creativity to be creative and act to develop the self requires an intra psychic structure that is not separated in two, (the defense model and the impaired self), but a ¨real self¨ expression. The true self is where the impaired self lies and where the wounds are. The object related defense model is there to prevent a separation depression. The separation depression is developed in childhood and the split structure is there to prevent the emotions of this unhealthy separation from parents, normally the mother. The real self is one unit with self regulation and self soothing and supportive acts, and from where the personal spontaneous idea comes. Only the true nature can be creative. The interesting creativity, here, is the ability to create new and supportive thinking structures based on reality. https://intra.help/more-about-the-real-self daily 0.75 2022-09-21 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1586082818633-SZ5TJ95QMLF4ZMUITYM0/image-asset.jpeg More about the real self - Therapy at an edge New visions and new approaches The sciences within mental and emotional health is the newest field of science that exist, and the history of this science proves the lack of objectivity and neutrality of the creators. This has caused an enormous amount of people to be treated and mirrored from the doctors or the therapists own projections and deceptions. The 1800 centuries´ doctors where mere polite witnesses, that observed the patient and ´reported the truth´. In this context lobotomy, or leucotomy, that is a form of psychosurgery, a neurosurgical treatment of mental disorder, was performed. The modern version is electro chock or heavy psycho-pharmica. These ways of mirroring traumatized people is a clear sign of the treaters´ own pathology and defensive projections, and not acts performed according to reality. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1663582628990-QGUX0R2WGHT3BGQL40F3/unsplash-image-c-TB_qEuWBQ.jpg More about the real self - Creativity and Innovation The design of `good´ or ´bad ´ humans to be creative and act to develop the self and the surroundings empathically, requires an intra psychic structure that is not separated in defensive splits, The splits have been developed during childhood to prevent the emotions of unhealthy separation from parents, often unbearable traumas of horror. The case with the split intra psychic model, is that its there to prevent the unbearable emotions to surface. internally, but is externalized to cope. Todays prisons are filled with sweet humans that where designed to defend against unbearable sufferings. with character defenses that are not their real self. This means that the authentic real self is buried within. In severe cases also locked in a box with 3 m thick walls and chain locks (metaphorically) The real self is one unit with self regulation and self soothing and supportive acts,. When a person during developmental stages are not familiar to interest in teaching and guiding and warm affect from caregivers, but are requiered to serve the parents needs or severe abuse, there can not be an intra psyche that is developed from the unique core of the person. It has to adapt. When the true nature is hidden the consequences are destructive and fatal. and from where the personal spontaneous idea comes. Only the true nature can be creative. The interesting creativity here, is the ability to create new and supportive thinking structures based on reality. Prisons, electroshock and heavy medication do not facilitate this. It facilitates strengthening of the defense mechanisms and the false self, and ultimately designing humans to further destructiveness. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1663749830360-5NS9AG26MFTOVXAI6FC6/unsplash-image-6zVsSij6s5o.jpg More about the real self - Religion and spiritual development Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://intra.help/mousai-talk daily 0.75 2022-09-23 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1584875478640-SRY2TF9KKHVSFR8IR2E1/Mousai-logo1.png Mousai Talk - Make it stand out Whatever it is, the way you tell your story online can make all the difference. https://intra.help/more-about-abandonment-depression daily 0.75 2022-09-29 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1663663101930-LH7NF36GJX9CHFG7UEC9/unsplash-image-xpmyAbWAOD8.jpg More about Abandonment depression - Separation Anxiety The separation anxiety (great fear and complete loneliness) is accompanied with a following abandonment depression,- terms that describe the cause and primary clinical symptom of mirroring flaws, where the child experiences an unhealthy separation during personality development, The psyche creates a blanket of emotional memory loss. Not always, but mostly, not the actual happenings, but the memory of the emotional effect. The false self is the ´blanket` built to maintain the memory loss.. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1586080926588-F24NB5TE88K6PJOPL4I7/image-asset.jpeg More about Abandonment depression - Abandonment Depression A Depression is not an emotion. It is a Cluster of many, not regenerated emotions. This can f.ex. be emotions of great despair, anxiety, shame, pain and inadequacy, bundled together in one suffering experience. It is the body´s way of messaging an overload. The way to regenerate from a depression is to listen to the message and feel the affect of the emotions inside of the depression = work through. and last but most importantly act according to one´s own wishes and dreams. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1663663130928-5UDPNXBE08UJTR5J731J/unsplash-image-IqSaG9zv2e0.jpg More about Abandonment depression - How is the abandonment depression designed? It is necessary to understand that the child is in no condition to reason maturely with abusive and neglective behavior, and is completely dependent on the abuser to give him/her an intra psychic healthy experience of the self. A healthy psyche can not be designed if the child is expected to bare parents own (not healed) abandonment issues. This creates an denied unhealthy separation for the child and is expressed from caregivers as; an ongoing criticism, overcontrol, neglect, lack of interest in the childs dreams and wishes, violence or abuse. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1588670250948-P1F31ELPSC9AM8PKBW30/image-asset.jpeg More about Abandonment depression - ¨It is me¨! The child finds other fantasy projects too sooth themselves and will pr. definition (metaphorically) say; ``it is me. I am the one causing this, because my parents love me``. The child is completely dependent and 100% vulnerable towards the caretakers ability to recognize his or her emotions and to sooth and heal them if they are of despair.. When this does not happen, the child locks the unbearable emotions in a secure place and forms an intra psychic model that works as a defense against the unhealthy separation and its emotions. This is how the distorted landscape inside is designed. There are no other options as the child is completely dependent on the mirroring to create the sense of self. The child can not integrate the fact that the parents are not able to give what he/she needs emotionally. The disorder (the false self) is an intra psychic split into 2 units of the psyche: https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1586082928933-1OE0T7676KL8MLN1FTC0/image-asset.jpeg More about Abandonment depression - The split Self Model Object related defense Unit Shows itself as fully ``object (-the other) focused``, and is acted out to achieve nutrition from object. (omni-potence). Or as reject nutrition (victim) from object. In either cases, both the victim and omni potent state is a defense against the separation anxiety and abandonment depression Impaired self Unit Shows itself as severe lack of or no sense of worth and is acted out with addictions, apathy, severe anxiety, rage, eating disorders, isolation, multiple partners etc. Also created to defend against the separation anxiety and abandonment depression . https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1586083767406-33RILM3K0W73J2PGR0W7/image-asset.jpeg More about Abandonment depression - Suicidal Urges Is a message that there is something in Your life that can not be tolerated any longer, and is the body`s way of saying stop! This is a place to grow new hope and start new beginnings. Unfortunately the conventional health system do not offer insight or the right help and many (young) people choose to act on the urge. Do not do that! This is a good place for change if you learn to listen to your emotions and what they tell you to not, - by any circumstances, tolerate any longer! The clue here is to not act out the anger on the “other” , when you realize this, but use your anger to form limits and boundaries, make changes after your own true self, and tell your truth with integrity. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1586082818633-SZ5TJ95QMLF4ZMUITYM0/image-asset.jpeg More about Abandonment depression - The Real Self merges if the false self (the split self model) is not acted out, that means, the defense unit (the split model) is dormant, and the wounds from the impaired self surfaces and the affect of the wounds is worked through.. The real Self is then active; The real self act from a fundament of self organization, where the different I in different circumstances are well known and guided and supported with worth and freedom of choice. The real self expresses his creative mind and ideas independently of others and acts according to his or her authenticity and in reality . Important to notice is that the real self also contains the wounds, the pain and the fear. Under the imprisoning circumstances of a personality disorder, the real self has to be activated, as a decision, on a daily basis in the start of the recovery. This is a process of grief of huge losses, and requires patience, self soothing and self support. and the emotions that arise, has to be worked through (emotional memory and articulation and emotional affect), not cut off!!. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1663582628990-QGUX0R2WGHT3BGQL40F3/unsplash-image-c-TB_qEuWBQ.jpg More about Abandonment depression - Creativity to be creative and act to develop the self requires an intra psychic structure that is not separated in two, (the defense model and the impaired self), but a ¨real self¨ expression. The object related defense model is there to prevent a separation depression. The separation depression is caused in childhood. The case with the split intra psychic model, is that neither of the two are authentic and the real self. They have been developed during childhood to prevent the emotions of unhealthy separation from parents, normally the mother. The real self is one unit with self regulation and self soothing and supportive acts, and from where the personal spontaneous idea comes. Only the true nature can be creative. The interesting creativity here, is the ability to create new and supportive thinking structures based on reality. https://intra.help/approach daily 0.75 2025-10-18 https://intra.help/healing-and-recovery-1 daily 0.75 2025-09-05 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1663580285860-ISUGZX6JWXZLKX4C842F/unsplash-image-KkCig7EbfoA.jpg Healing and Recovery (Copy) - Healing begins when your real self is seen https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1663580310935-G8KETILAY2NLBMX6VRZ5/unsplash-image-QGhOYibh81o.jpg Healing and Recovery (Copy) - The way to recovery Everyone has their own personal story with its own effects and emotional work-through. Every person have their own unique experiences and genetics, and therefore people suffering from mirroring flaws have their own unique ways of expressing the defenses against the traumatic emotions, but the fundamental pattern, or machinery to drive acts and perceptions within the defensive mechanisms, is the same for everyone. It is a very simple and repetitive concept. The finesses and difficulties lies in using the exact right therapeutic techniques to aid the patient to see their own self destructive ways to feel ¨good¨ without activating their defense mechanisms. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5dd7bf7226c0ef790161f7c6/1609283858618-31C0T6VO63CX9P7AX63X/the+art+of+empathy.jpeg Healing and Recovery (Copy) - Uniqueness Expressed The healing of the real self is based on the ability to activate the real self. The real self is unique. like water crystals, or the head of a flower. There does not exist one equal to the other. The path to authenticity is the work through of the separation anxiety and abandonment depression; when the person is made aware of how the defensive character traits work (driven by mental defense models), and starts activating him/herself out of need to be authentic, and further supports his/her true needs, wishes and dreams, - a following depression will surface!!. The crucial point here is to work through the depression and anxiety, not to cut these feelings off with defenses. .