´Mirroring´ is a term used to the actions and reactions you give to `the other person`.

The emotional landscape and its self-representation (character) is shaped and designed by the caregiver´s (daily dynamics in;) actions and reactions towards the child, during personality development (0 - 15 yrs.).

Your caregivers are defined, firstly and most importantly, as your parents. Secondly, as all care-taking persons in family-like positions. Thirdly, institutions and other care takers, such as teachers, trainers, doctors etc. Lastly, culture and the political climate.

This climate is set by, and sets, the culture for economy, health and mobility (the public health-, educational-, economical, - and infrastructural system).

Mirroring flaws happens when the mirroring is damaging to the development of personality (here; the true self). This means roughly that you are perceived and interacted with, as something you are not.

If the flaws stem from your primary care takers (from parents during personality development), the consequences are fundamental:

an incapability to be authentic and real, because the character is working to defend (repress, dissociate from, or deny) against, fear (anxiety), deep grief. pain, shame and loneliness, - called the Abandonment Depression and Separation Anxiety.

If the flaws stem from socio cultural traits, the consequences are equal, though more superficial, but still fatal: a weakened ability to behave and act according to own needs and dreams.

The consequences of superficial mirroring flaws are cultural, non-beneficial traits that often result in parenting with mirroring flaws at a later state, when reaching the role of primary caretaker.

“The consequences of mirroring flaws are fatal to Health and Well Being”.

Cause and Consequence of mirroring- flaws

Cause

The Cause is lack of support, guidance, patience and interest in your wellbeing, or direct abuse and distortion of wellbeing.

Consequence

It´s Primary Consequence is - a denied, or repressed, or dissociated from,- separation anxiety and abandonment depression. This depression and anxiety contain different unbearable emotions for the child., and is therefore defended against.

Defense mechanisms

Denial of separation anxiety and abandonment depression , or repression or dissociate from it, requires a great deal of defensive behavior to maintain an emotional memory loss, because the emotions are of great dipair. These emotions will be externailzed i your life as an adult, and It is expressed as personality disorders in an false self, where compliance, grandiosity, distancing or harsh behavior (as adults), shows itself through a strict pattern of unconscious false-self behavior , where it is denied that you are not following your own dreams and wishes. The denial of the unfulfilled life will again create the need of more defensive behavior like obsessions, compliance, aggression, violence, abuse, addictions, and in worst case scenarios, if not healed, suicides, and homicides. These events are again denied consequences of unhealed mirroring flaws.

The primary goal of the false self is to maintain a state of `feel good` where the `feel good` , is only the absence of the abandonment depression and separation anxiety.