The False Self
Designing a False Self
Separation Anxiety
is great fear when complete loneliness occur and is accompanied with a following abandonment depression - both terms that describe the cause and primary clinical symptom of mirroring flaws, where the child experiences an unhealthy separation during personality development,
The emotional collapse
creates an internalization of the experience.
The child is completely dependent and 100% vulnerable towards the caretaker’s ability to mirror who they are perceived as. and to sooth and heal them if they are of despair. When this does not happen, the child locks the unbearable emotions in a secure place and forms an intra psychic model that works as a defense against the unhealthy separation and its emotions. This is how the distorted landscape inside is designed. There are no other options as the child is completely dependent on the mirroring to create the sense of self. The child cannot integrate the fact that the parents are not able to give what he/she needs emotionally and internalizes the experience as their fault and their lack of abilities.
The disorder (the false self) is an intra psychic split into 2 units of the psyche:
The blankets
The psyche creates a blanket of memory loss. Normally not the actual happenings, but the memory of the emotional effect. “ The false self ” is the the term for the ´blankets` designed to maintain the emotional memory loss.. To visualize the psyches construction, see the whole person as a core circle with levels of layers around, or an Russian doll. The core is emotionally damaged but well hidden, and the last layer is split in two. This last split layer is the character representation to the outer world that defends against core emotions.
The Split Representation
Object related defense Unit
Shows itself as fully ``object (-the other) focused``, and is acted out to achieve nutrition from object. (omni-potence). Or as reject nutrition (victim) from object. In either cases, both the victim and omni potent state is a defense against the separation anxiety and abandonment depression
Impaired self-Unit
Shows itself as severe lack of or no sense of worth and is acted out or represented to the world with addictions, apathy, severe anxiety, rage, eating disorders, isolation, multiple partners etc. Also created to defend against the separation anxiety and abandonment depression.
Poisonous Shame
¨It is me¨!
It is necessary to understand that the child is in no condition to reason maturely with abusive and neglective behavior, and is completely dependent on the abuser to give an emotional healthy experience of the self. The experience of the child is that of being the one who causes the caregivers to do what they do.
Suicidal Urges
function as a message that there is something in Your life that can not be tolerated any longer, and is the body`s way of saying stop!
This is a place to grow new hope and start new beginnings. Unfortunately the conventional health system do not offer insight or the right help and many people choose to act on the urge. Do not do that! This is a good place for change if you learn to listen to your emotions and what they tell you to not, - by any circumstances, tolerate any longer!