Therapeutic Visions
Method to Therapy
The Real Self
merges if the false self (the split self model) is not acted out,
that means, the defense unit is dormant, and the impaired self Unit has surfaced. The pain of the impairment then surfaces and the affect of the wounds must be worked through. Work through shows itself with emotional expressions like crying, anger, poisonous shame, again crying. The real Self is active and the wounds are defined and worked through;
It is crucial to recovery that the emotions that arise, is worked through (emotional memory and articulation and emotional affect), not cut off!!.
The real self act from a fundament of self organization, where the different “I” in different circumstances are well known and guided and supported with worth and freedom of choice. The real self expresses the creative mind and ideas independently of others and acts according to his or her authenticity and in reality.
Under the imprisoning circumstances of mirroring flaws, the real self has to be activated, as a decision, on a daily basis, in the start of the recovery. This is a process where grief of huge losses and great pain happens, and requires patience, self soothing and self support, and preferably someone that aids with empathic mirroring to demystify anxieties that surface.
Creativity
to be creative and act to develop the self requires an intra psychic structure that is not separated in two, (the defense model and the impaired self), but a ¨real self¨ expression. The true self is where the impaired self lies and where the wounds are. The object related defense model is there to prevent a separation depression. The separation depression is developed in childhood and the split structure is there to prevent the emotions of this unhealthy separation from parents, normally the mother. The real self is one unit with self regulation and self soothing and supportive acts, and from where the personal spontaneous idea comes. Only the true nature can be creative. The interesting creativity, here, is the ability to create new and supportive thinking structures based on reality.