Relationships

Mirroring flaws in Relationships to all.

A primary basic human need is the need for inclusion, - we are social species and cannot develop and flourish as a human without fulfilled social needs. When suffering from mirroring flaws these social needs are represented in the world dwarfed and distorted, or ´unhealthy´. The interaction is based solemnly to provide only an absence of discomfort, this discomfort is the emotional effect of the mirroring flaws. The mechanism of preventing the discomfort has to be repetitively acted out to defend against the pain from the mirroring flaw, which is:

an experience of not being loved or being abandoned, neglected, not valued, deceived, dominated and abused when you need love interest and guidance.

The effect is the need to cut off this pain and can be seen in a lack of recognition or denial of non-emphatic attributes in (self-and/or other) people. like, manipulation, aggression, ignorance, abuse, domination and dishonesty, or acceptance of such. An on the other hand, the emotional painful experiences that are cut off can be externalized and the experience of abuse and dishonesty and non-loving attributes can be seen when that does not occur.

Healthy relationships stem from empathic interaction.

Unhealthy relationships stem from abusive (attacking), defensive or compliant interaction.